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September 2010


Integration Card

Keywords:  Blending, fusing, melding, combining separate elements into a unified whole  

Integration is a blending of separate elements; the blending elements can be skills, ideas, concepts, or parts of self.  The fusing forms a new element, picture or a system of thought.   There are many places were we blend together our skills, such as in our work, and in our personal and creative lives.  In fact, it is part of the creative process.

My favorite part of autumn, apart from the colorful leaves, is making soups:  cooking them slow and long atop the stove, mixing and combining different foods and spices to create new and tasty flavors.  Every soup is different and a unique blend of my mood and what is in the fridge!

In the work that I do as a psychotherapist I am considered eclectic, blending different techniques and approaches to best adapt to the person I am with.  Like a good soup, the flavors so wonderfully blend that they merge into a perfect soup for the soul – even without the chicken.

What skill do you integrate in your life?  Where have you combined something so well that it has become its own unique element?  In what ways are you your a unique integration of all you have experienced, and then some?  Celebrate your unique integration of self and in Walt Whitman’s words “sing a song of yourself”.

Leslie Helen Bambic Ciechanowski 2010



 When I made my first mock-up of the Fuzion Oracle cards, I was very excited.  They seemed to jump out of  a two-dimensional world of images into three-dimensional world of form.  They were finally becoming real!

Before I did anything with them I shuffled with enthusiasm and asked my first question.: “What is the highest intention of these cards?”  I kept shuffling until I felt ready, cut the cards, and picked one from the pile.  It was the card called “MAGIC”  

I was overjoyed, feeling that I could not have chosen a better card.  Magic, without ego and forcing of will, is the art of opening oneself up to seeing and experiencing the world around us in a different way, discovering the place of interconnectedness of all things and communicating with it.   The highest intention of these cards is to assist us on our journey, highlight our inner reality within the experiences of the outer world and observe the mystery of this interplay and our place within this interconnected world.  It is my hope that these cards can assist in our respectful co-creation in a mindful and heartfelt way. 

It is in this spirit, and in the spirit of exploration that I have decided to pick one card as a focus for the week ahead and share my musing on the card, as well as invite you to share yours – stay tuned.  Until then, how do you experience magic?  Where have you seen it in your life?

Happy and magical equinox to all!

Leslie Helen Bambic Ciechanowski 2010

When do You change the toilet paper roll?

Have you ever been stuck on the toilet and there is no toilet paper on the roll?  Have you ever found a roll nearby but slightly out of reach, or perhaps just below the empty roll itself?    Chances are you have!

  The changing of the toilet paper roll is a seemingly innocuous event in our daily lives but can reflect our attitudes toward self and others at a very basic level.  Perhaps if we could measure the “changing of the roll” so to speak, it would reflect the way in which we are in the community.

Imagine this, you are sitting on the “throne”. The tissue is hanging off the roll, just enough for you.  Another fresh new roll lies just below within easy reach.   What do you do?  Honestly now!  Do you take your piece, leave the roll empty, wash your hands and go?  Do you use the last piece, and as a courtesy to the next person, change the roll?   Or, do you leave the roll empty on the floor for the next person to change it?  Perhaps you are so absorbed in your internal or external activities that you don’t even notice the roll on the floor.  In which case, I sure hope you wash you hands on the way out!

 What we do, and how we are as individual’s in our daily lives reflects what we bring to the larger community. If we change the roll, we are thinking of the persons who come after us.  It reflects an act of kindness, mindful of the present and anticipating future needs.  One can extrapolate a potential attitude of concern for the generations to come.  Not changing does not automatically assume its opposite possibility, but perhaps a position of mindlessness, preoccupation, or ignoring what is.  Yet if we ignore possibilities for small acts of kindness and let the next person be greeted by the empty roll, it reflects an attitude of every-person-for themselves, and dog-eat-dog.  Dogs don’t generally eat dogs, perhaps not unless they are starving, or trained to.  We live in an age of plenty – for the most part, and there would be more than enough if there were more generosity of spirit.

 Ask yourself even further, do you change the roll only in your own house, or do you also change it public places?  Otherwise, do you stick to only taking care of your own “tribe”, or are you extending your act of kindness however small to others.   If the toilet paper is out of reach, do you make the extra effort and change it after, or leave it? Do you not change the roll at all but leave the roll on the floor after using it?  How do you feel when you change said roll?  Do you do it automatically because that is how you were trained?  Do you change the roll with frustration, perhaps perceiving always having to do it, or anticipating always having to do it?  Do you change it wanting recognition in what you do, perhaps distilling future anger for recognition not being forth coming?  Or are you changing it because it is simply what needs to be done.  None of these positions are right or wrong, however they do reflect the quality of heart on an individual and collective level.

I was in a job interview years ago, being interviewed by approximately 3-4 women.  After all the questions were asked and the interview was coming to a close, someone asked, “Is there anything else you would like to tell us about yourself?”  Without really thinking I blurted out, ”I know how to change a toilet paper roll.”   This little comment garnered a few chuckles, for we had all been there, but it also reflected, that I took the extra step of consideration for others after me whoever they may be.

I am not suggesting that we start running around and taking care of other people’s business.  It is important to first take care of your own and then perhaps one extra thing.  We are all in this together, whatever color shape or size.  If daily we did one extra thing to make the world a better place without measuring reward or personal gain, how quickly our world would change!  If we changed that toilet paper roll, or picked up the trash, or performed a random act of kindness or generosity of any sort we would be making one more gesture, which opens our hearts personally, and as a community.

It is easy to get overwhelmed with the amount of things that need to be changed when we start looking.  It is easy to lose heart when overwhelmed.  Breathe deeply and remember the heart of your being, it is here we are connected. 


©Leslie H Bambic Ciechanowski 2009